Most people I talk to about body language seem to have their main interest set in finding out the flirting signals of the opposite sex and how to know when somebody is attracted to them.
Of course me being such the Casanova that I am know all about this : P …
Okay I’m not much of a practiced person in this area but I’m good at observing others doing it (only difference between stalking and research is a pen and paper) so there’s a few things I’ve seen.
When guys notice girls they find attractive they will subtly straighten their backs to appear taller, suck in their guts and expand their chests – this isn’t as noticeable at parties where everyone is dressed up, but try going to your local gym’s swimming pool, beach or wherever you can see people at their most vulnerable and exposed.
This behaviour is due to the simple fact that what is generally considered “hot” or “sexy” is our , for instance, men try to highlight their stature and muscles while women will draw attention to their femininity such as their cleavage, long hair (by touching/fixing it), crossing their legs and narrowing them to emphasize their hips, to uses of the sideways head position to expose the vulnerable and delicate neck, and so forth.
The first thing you can usually observe in male and female relations is that the girl makes eye contact with the guy she likes, and once the guy has spotted the girl making eye contact the two of them will lock each others gazes for a few seconds until she looks away.
The guy then confused, sits there watching whether she does it again, which she usually does and this time smiles or giggles a bit giving the guy the confirmation he needs to decide to approach the girl.
However, before doing so the guy and girl alike will both start grooming themselves: the guy will fix his tie if he has one on, straighten his pants and shirt as he gets up, and the girl will start playing with her jewelry, fiddling with her hair and crossing her legs.
Once the guy reaches the girl to talk they will initiate a conversation of some sort – short into the conversation you can usually see how things are going.In the best case scenarios they are joking around, she is laughing as she taps his wrist, arm or shoulder sometimes even removing pieces of lint from his clothing as a sign of affection and caring.All these subtle physical touches slowly create an intimacy, as they are both opening up and getting comfortable in each others Intimate Zone.The problem is that many guys interpret smiles and staring in the wrong context and confuse flirting with friendliness (mainly because males have 15 times more testosterone and think everything in sex terms) so it’s best if you read all those signals in groups of gestures.The following are some of the most popular signs of attraction used by women: Observing men’s body language to see their patterns of flirting gestures wasn’t as appealing as watching women’s for some reason.Men don’t appear to have as many flirting signs – perhaps this could be due to our stiff nature where our bodies aren’t as flexible (as our ancestors main concern was to hunt and develop strong muscles for survival, so our main asset when it came to finding a mate was the display of our big muscles, tall stature and large crotch to the female).