I want people to be real with me, don T just try to impress me with trivial unnecessary facts. I love music, just not rap, or anything that bores me, or makes me want to shoot myself in the head.One of the main distinctions between Ugandans and Americans as sexual beings is the level of discussion there is on the subject.
In fact, if Ugandans want to get engaged, they tell their auntie about their significant other. In one of the local languages, Luganda, the word for love, like and want is the same: oku-jagala.
She in turn tells the parents, which starts the whole engagement process. In my opinion, this can lead to a lot of mixed messages, because, at least in the U.
S., I know the vast difference between someone wanting me and loving me.
I was in Uganda as a student, a daughter and a sister.
I was studying there, but living with a family and I was completely immersed in the culture.
This meant a strange combination of Ugandan and American conceptions of everything from academics, nursing homes and, of course, sex. The closest we ever came was when I showed her my photo album from home and she came across a photo of me sitting in my ex's lap, with his arms around me.
She saw it, giggled, closed the book and repeated the cycle for the next 20 minutes. Conversely, my 17-year-old American sister and I discuss all aspects of our sex lives, unfortunately in way too much detail.
I don't think this difference is a question of being more open to the conversation; it has more to do with cultural conceptions of appropriateness.
The way Ugandans approach dating is on a whole different level from Americans.