If you wonder what kind of woman goes after another woman’s husband, you are not alone.
So what kind of women go after married men, and why?
It may surprise you, but all romantic involvements aside, you may not know these women who pursue married men from your own friends and acquaintances.
They may have the same interests as you, they may be involved in the same activities, clubs, or sports teams. The difference typically tends to be in the way these women think and react emotionally.
Women who go after married men may not act or look any different at all from those who steer clear of other women’s men. Words of Reasoning from a Real-Life Woman Who’s Dated Married Men As for the why, it seems that several reasons exist behind these women’s decisions to pursue other women’s husbands. Women always want what they can’t have, and married men are about as off-the-market as you can get.
An anonymous woman shares that she has engaged in romantic relationships with three married men, but keeps her love life completely private from her friends, family, and social circles.“I do not consider myself a ‘home wrecker’ or even ‘the other woman,’ though those are the common names for women like me,” she says. (Besides gay men, of course, but that gets tricky.) There is more of a chase aspect with trying to date a married man than there is with trying to date a single guy.“More importantly, even when you are dating the married man, you’re still not entirely with him. Your actions together are also considered taboo – so there is a thrill in knowing you are being secretive and cannot get caught.”The anonymous woman adds, “Unlike some women who date married men, my biggest fear is if they ever say they want to leave their wife.
Part of the reason I date married men is because there is a lack of commitment.I’m not looking to get married, and he already is, so the relationship stays in that ‘fun’ phase and doesn’t get serious.If it starts getting serious, that’s when I split.”The Psychology behind Women Who Only Date Married Men According to some therapists and psychologists, some women target married men for their dating relationships on a regular basis.One therapist was kind enough to share some of the psychology behind why these women go after only married men.“I have been a family therapist for over thirty years and have seen many women who have chosen to date and to have relationships with only married men,” says family therapist and author Carleton Kendrick Ed. “I cannot and would not generalize about why all such women make such a choice.That said, in my professional, anecdotal experience, however, I will quote the words of one such client of mine that addresses an essential reason behind these women’s choices of dating and having affairs with only married men:‘When I’m with a married man, I experience his intense desire for me and the excitement and thrills of a secret, romantic relationship while never having to deal with all the downsides, drudgery, boredom and responsibilities of being in a marriage with him that his wife has to suffer.I get expensive getaways and gifts and she gets to do his laundry.’”Commonalities and Differences between Women Who Pursue Married Men and Husbands Who Cheat It seems that some women and men are almost programmed in a way to never cheat on their spouse or significant other, while others may stray from their partners despite the bond of marriage.